A Native American grandfather and his grandchild were talking about their feelings following the 9/11 attack .I feel I have two wolves fighting in my heart. One wolf is vengeful, angry and violent. The other is loving and compassionate. The grand child was confused and asked, Grandfather, which wolf will win the fight? The grandfather thought for awhile then replied,The one that I feed.
This can also happen in education if you go into a test telling yourself you'll fail or the because the body cannot tell the difference between perceived thoughts and actual events. So in other words if you think you fail you will fail and if you think you'll succeed you will. In every part of your life you are expected to do the best you can, and staying positive is the best way you can do that.
Of course staying positive won't completely change your life but it can improve your attitude when life takes those unexpected turns.
Here are some positive things I learned in the presentation that you can do to keep your day going in a more positive direction:
1.Begin by taking a few relaxing breaths.
2. Identify the negative cognition—the negative affirmation.
3. Identify the underlying negative beliefs and assumptions and make statements from them.
4. Create positive statements (always presented in the present tense) to counter the negative statements.
5.Repeat the new, positive affirmations as often as needed and at least several times a day.
6.Create cues (reminders) in your daily routine that encourage your new, positive beliefs and assumptions.
7.Utilize thought stopping techniques to immediately eliminate negative thoughts that try to sneak through. This might require some persistence on your part, especially if you‘re dealing with a long-standing negative cognition.
8.Praise yourself for each little advancement you make toward loving and accepting yourself more fully.
So next time you're in a hard situation take a minute breath in......breathe out...and think about which wolf you're feeding
i think your post was really interesting, i think that putting the wolf is a great way to put which feelings are the ones your feeding. i think that the points you gave at the end are something we should think and practice more, in that way we may be able to handle hard situation we can have in life without feeding are wolf with anger and violence.
ReplyDeleteThanks! I learned it from a presentation at school it was really interesting the way it was put into perspective.
DeleteOne thing that caught my attention was the way our body mind works in modern time. When she said the way we think is the we act.
ReplyDeleteI love your post, it's interesting & true but at the same time very wise. Sometimes I feel like I'm feeding both wolves.
ReplyDeletethought that it was super useful because i actually tried it when i was in a tough situation
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